So one of my oldest friends, a best friend, who has always shot straight as straight shootin' can get (and who I actually listen to), recommended I "tone down the aggression between the lines in some of my posts"...
"I love them, and you make great points, you just seem really angry, and that can hinder the effectiveness of your message..."
"fuck living positive - negativity spreads faster" - Lloyd Banks (and we all know he's right, so blame yourself for my blog poppin' off)
I love this friend dearly, so in honor of her name and all she stands for in my life, I am going to tone it down... just this once (love ya' tortilly)
Unconditional love. Allow me to explain.
I am asking you to start your New Year 2012 off by thinking of a person that you already tell you "love".
Go ahead. Pick one. Just one.
Now...
When you picture this person in your mind, if they were to betray your trust, stab you in the back, lie to you, hurt you, etc. etc., would you revoke their license to enjoy your love? Most likely, yes.
It's only natural; hurt me, and I no longer love you. How can you love someone who hurts you? How can you love someone who, at that point, "must not" love you? After all, if they "loved you", they wouldn't "hurt you". Right?
It's the age-old mystery anyone who ever had their heart broken struggles to solve for... well... in my experience, literally years.
BUT, NOW...
I have grown my mind around the fact that love, for it to truly work, and in its truest sense of the word, must be unconditional. In other words, if there are conditions and covenants for this mutual consideration of "love", or something like "I will agree to love you so long as you 1.) don't lie, 2.) don't cheat, 3.) don't etc. etc. etc.", it will never work, because the sheer delicacy of the emotion, and how dearly we hold it to our hearts, will always be vulnerable to harm, BECAUSE of its delicacy, and how dearly we hold it to our hearts...
It's almost virtually impossible to not experience pain after we admit our love because we all believe our love is the ultimate gift and, if he left the toilet seat up, or if she texted her ex-boyfriend "happy new year", they must not appreciate that supreme, suffocating, emotional blanket.
By the time the human psyche reaches a point where its comfortable in risking its most sincere, intense, precious pearl of vulnerability, it automatically, simultaneously goes on the look-out for anything that may harm its treasured romantic past-time...
It's like when you finally muster the courage to wear your favorite suit or dress to dinner... how much more aware are you of every crumb that breaches the artificial boundary you've set around your garment?
Love is the same! Every minute attack on your "brand new vintage Coach purse" of emotions is going to send you into a fucking volcanic tailspin!!!
So! Don't bother with the conditions... add "unconditionally" to "I love you" the next time you share your golden ticket with (insert name here). This way, you shield off any potential threats because threats can't exist if you aren't afraid of losing anything, or being hurt or harmed...
"I love you unconditionally".
I like it! It's your Gladiator armor for your 2012 love fantasy!
ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED!?!?
Happy 2012 from Dallas, Texas, where I commit to love those I already love and will love "unconditionally". My heart is armor-ed up!
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